Amar, the viral journey of transgender people because of the Pesantren family


“Don’t make the same difference, don’t make the same difference.”

The message of the late Abdurrahman Wahid or Gus Dur about the spirit of pluralism and tolerance still resonates in the mind of Amar Alfikar. This sentence then reinforces Amar’s determination to move from a woman to a man, regardless of his status as a kiai son.

“Gus Dur is one of the many Muslim figures who inspired me to be strong, to continue to strive to be a person. weird Muslim or Muslim transgender. Then there is Buya Hamka. Buya Hamka was present during the first sex reassignment attempt in Indonesia, but a lot of people don’t know, ”Amar said when speaking to Wolipop unricmagazinecom recently.

Amar’s figure went viral after sharing his life story on Twitter last June. Amar grew up among a strong Pesantrenan family in Kendal, Central Java. Her father was a kiai and her mother was known as nyai. Struggling with gender identity, Amar feels in the wrong body. The soul of man is more dominant.

After going through a long mental struggle, he finally decided to become a transpria. Even though his parents accepted the decision, Amar’s life did not go smoothly.

Insults and ridicule have become his daily regimen. It was also full of insults and curses in the name of religion.

Fortunately for Amar, the experience did not make him spiritually bitter. The thoughts of a number of leading Indonesian Muslim intellectuals, including Gus Dur, have helped him survive as a gender minority.

Kiai Haji Abdurrahman Wahid, colloquially known as Gus Dur (born in Jombang, East Java, September 7, 1940, died in Ciganjur, December 30, 2009 at the age of 69)[1] is an Indonesian political and Muslim leader who became Indonesia’s fourth president from 1999 to 2001. (Photo: Getty Images)

“I may never have met him directly, but his principles of living, his defense of Ahmadiyya, of the Shiites, and even he became a guide for Indonesian transgender organizations during his lifetime, that is to me. inspired to continue to fight against this. it’s normal to be differentAmar said of the figure of RI’s 4th president.

Amar, who had studied Indonesian literature on a public campus in Semarang, dreams of continuing his studies at postgraduate level by approaching the field of human rights.

While waiting for this opportunity, Amar was busy sharing his experiences as a transgender from a Pesantren community.

“I am fortunate that in the religious environment in which I grew up they do not believe in religion in a severe way. They believe in religion with a tongue full of wisdom, establishing harmonious relations with other religions and local cultures. Islam is a kind of Islam. rahmatan lil alamin or Islam which is shady, humanist, pluralist, tolerant, ”he declared.

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